I’ve cut out a lot of what I wanted to write, I went into
some details about things she had done to me throughout the two years, but I am
still sheepish talking about it (fearful there will be backlash) and If you
would like to know any specifics then I can talk to you privately. I’m not
writing this to slander.
In late 2016, I made the decision to come to university with
my (at the time) partner. Things where already rocky and this turned out to be an
unwise decision on my part. Throughout our two-year relationship, my life had
been made incredibly difficult by this person. I don’t want to push 100% of the
blame for our issues on this person, but I would say it was a substantial
amount. For most of the relationship I wasn’t happy, and it’s hard to put into
words the ‘things’ this person used to do to me. I consider myself a cool and
collected person, and I’m sure most of you who know me would probably agree, so
when you get accused of being violent toward your ex, I was surprised.
What happened next was unforgivable, unforgettable and
vindictive. The mother, who will remain nameless, took her child and falsely report
horrid crimes that I had committed against her daughter. Accusations of
violence and rape. That was obviously a shock, being told you’d done something
so horrific when you know you didn’t do it.
Lots of statements, back and forth accusations and investigations
and nearly an entire year later I am legally allowed to say that this was not
the case and proven so. Obviously, her made up accusation didn’t get very far
and her mother’s plan of trying to ruin my life and potential career failed.
While that was happening, I still managed to complete all my assignments and
exams and achieved a 2:1 in my first year of computational science (pretty
proud, considering).
I have written this because I have heard some rumours and I
know Aylsham is a small town, me and my family name should not be shamed
because of the lies of another family. Moving on, I feel I owe my life to my
housemates who I’d only known for days when the even occurred, but they could
see the truth and stuck by me, and now one of them is my partner (cute, I know).
Throughout everything, I stayed true to who I am. I kept quiet, didn’t spread
lies or cause augments in the local Tesco’s. I kept my head down and remained respectful
to the authorities and helped the investigation in any way possible (I would
say the opposite of the opposing party).
There are lots of this I could chase after this result, but I’m
not stooping down to their level and I’m going to end this long overdue chapter
with this blog post. I hope she too moves on from this. If I’ve learned
anything from this, listen to your friends and family and what a frustrating
waste of two years of my life.
If you want to chat more about it, drop me a message,
otherwise stay safe people.
